WHOSE BLACKNESS?

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WHOSE BLACKNESS?

Did you see her braids? Yes, we birth that! It was created then passed on from our ancestors, but what was too black for us became a white appropriation for them. You said “go back to Africa with those braids!” well that’s until “Bo Derek” made it a fashion statement in her movie “10”. Then it wasn’t a “Black Thing” it was an “I want Those Braids Thing”. What once was unacceptable for us, has become the trending topic for everyone. Thank you! “Kim Kardashian” for rocking those braids, because when I wore them they were ethnic, but when you wear them it’s just cool, so “WHOSE BLACKNESS” is this anyway?

Let me take the time out to thank this world we claim is not White, not Black, but Grey for putting my “Blackness” back on the map, because somehow by the images I thumb through on social media we were lost and now we are relevant again. You have criticized me for the size of my LIPS the size of my ASS the color of my SKIN and the texture of my HAIR, but I checked the store for that lip kit and it was sold out, you know the one that increases the size of your lip, and I made an appointment to have all the fat sucked out of any place possible on my body, to have it inserted into my invisible butt, but there is a lengthy waiting list at Dr. Plastic’s office, and let me not forget those tanning lotions, sprays and booths, so “WHOSE BLACKNESS” is this anyway?.

You said you gave the black culture life, but we were here before you started your mission of taking what we have and turning it into yours and it is not called bringing anything to life, because what we have done  was raised your self-esteem from the dead. But what is the true argument here, because Black Women, White Women, all Women of all different races are aspiring to be something they’re not, so we PERM, STRAIGHTEN, COLOR, ENLARGE, REDUCE, and ADD. So if we are questioning “WHOSE BLACKNESS” is this anyway? Then the real answer is it’s any ones.

STOP acting black, how many times have you heard that statement, but if only that statement made any sense, since black is a color and not a performance. Why aren’t we free to mimic styles and recreate fashions, the ability to take from what we see, what we like, and what makes us happy. We should be flattered that all races want to recapture us, but don’t get it twisted be free to express, but allow the power of expression to get the real credit of where it came from.

#Self-Worth Monique Antoinette

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“EMBRACING IMPERFECTION”

Embracing Imperfection

“EMBRACING IMPERFECTION”

In this perfect world of contouring, maximizing and minimizing our body image, everyone seems to be racing towards the finish line of perfection, but what is perfection? And why does everyone want so badly to achieve it. For many of us, beauty is what we can physically see on the outside, but if we sought out the true meaning of beauty we can find that it lives in the cavity of our soul, and it exist in the depths of how we treat people, without holding prejudgment to who they are and where they originated from.

The effects of what beauty looks like can cause an illuminating reaction or an invisible displacement, leaving young ladies and young men to question if they are GOOD ENOUGH. I recently took a trip to Atlanta and while touring one of their many attractions, a young lady was there, and I couldn’t help but awkwardly stare at her, she had visible scars that covered about ninety percent of her body and while I felt uncomfortable looking, she was comfortable and confident showing them.

This young lady was dressed not to cover up her scars but to expose them and I thought what a brave, unique, young person she is. In my own moment of reflection I wondered if I would have had that courage, she was an example of what “SELF-WORTH” is. She didn’t allow her scars or people to dictate how she needed to be seen and that to me is EMBRACING IMPERFECTION.

I have left you with and Excerpt from my Self-Help book titled “Self-Worth” below.

“Whenever you feel that you are worth it, that’s when confidence kicks in. it’s an inner feeling that comes from within and it is not based on how you look in the mirror, but what the image of the mirror reflects back onto you.  If your inside doesn’t match your outside, all the makeup, clothes and hair won’t make a difference. A built up of confidence allows you to step into any skin, any body image and any character flaws you may think you have. It’s the ability to rely on what makes you stronger, and what pushes you to be limitless, while setting you up to enter into life’s positive outcome”.

#Self-Worth Monique Antoinette

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“LOVE QUOTES”

BREAKFAST AT TIFFANYS AUDREY HEPBURN

“LOVE QUOTES”

Searching for a good quote? In a web full of quotes we rummage through them all looking for the best ones to tell how we feel at that present moment and while we LIKE them, POST them, and SHARE them how rarely do we APPLY them to our own daily lives. Love quotes seem to be our most favorite ones, because they sum up our emotions, what we desire and what we want to express, so we hide behind the shadows while our quotes do all of our talking for us. Antique quotes, Modern quotes, somehow we still gravitate to love quotes, the best ones handpicked just like our classic movies they are timeless and kept bottled up, then released once needed.

#Self-Worth Monique Antoinette

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